CREATE LOVE!: SHARE YOUR LOVE: Happy Couple Highlight VIII

CREATE LOVE!: SHARE YOUR LOVE: Happy Couple Highlight VIII: HAPPY COUPLE HIGHLIGHT Beautiful Couple : Nikki Rashan and Brandy Jenkins How long have you been together? We have been friends for ...

Bruhs, Studs, Bros: Educate us... We want to know!

So, I've engaged in conversations with many friends.  Some friends are feminine and others, not so much.  At any rate, we are all women who love women.  With that being said, it brings me to this question:

For my sista's who consider themselves studs, bruhs, bros, etc... - the women who are more non-feminine than their mates - is it taboo/off limits/out of the question - to have your woman touch you and please you as you do her?

This question by no means is intended to disrespect anyone, so please do not take it that way.  Educate your fellow sistas, please!  I mean, everyone wants to please and be please, right?  So if you're pleasing, does your pleasure comes from giving ALL OF THE TIME?  How does your mate fulfill her desire to please?


Now before folks start laughing, raising their eyebrows, or feeling some kind of way in their chest, hear me out... I, well excuse me, me and a lot of other folks sincerely want to know the answer to this question. Help those of us whose relationships are 50/50 in every aspect understand your logic or position on this matter. 

What's in a salutation?

I can remember first dating someone. In my younger days I would call them my girlfriend or simply my friend.  When asked by people I’d say, “We’re just kicking it.”  I did not see past the moment.  I did not think of them in any other form than what I needed them to be at that time.  As I’ve matured, I now understand the significance of a salutation. My response is quite different when asked about my partner and or the nature of our relationship.  When I introduce her to my family, my friends, my co-workers, and associates I encompass all that she is to me so that they acknowledge her significance as well.  “Hello everyone, this is my partner.  I’d like to introduce you all to the love of my life.”  I speak love when I introduce her to the world.  I smile, show affection and connection when presenting her to people.  I do this to honor her being.  I do this show the world just how important she is to me.  I do this to speak love into the universe in the name of our love.  "Oh, we are  in the midst of building a wonderful life." 

What is your take on a salutation? 

Salutations are situation appropriate and also should be in line with your current relationship. My question is in regards to a commiteed relationship. If you are not properly introduced by your partner/mate would you find it disrespectful? I do believe as we mature and truly understand 'relationships' a certain importance is placed on how you introduce the person you're with.

Finding love and Keeping it

Often, couples settle into their everyday lives and neglect to maintain that wonderful feeling that brought them together. Conversations become surface, the bedroom is mundane, quality time is absent, and the very essence of their togetherness seems to be routine.  Seemingly they begin to take one another for granted. The significance of the relationship has passed and is now replaced monotonous behavior.

What happens to the flame that was ignited in the beginning? What about laughing until you cry while conversing or the excitement of seeing one another after a long day? Has time diminished these wonderful elements of your relationship? How do you suppose re-inventing your love? 

What is it about LONGEVITY in relationships that seems to drain the creativity, spontaneity, passion and significance out of it?

My partner is my friend;  we laugh, joke, talk, and have fun.  My partner is my lover;  we make love, explore sexual desires, make it our business to do 'new' things, express our hunger for one another and exhibit our affection. My partner understands me as I do her.  We communicate without judgment or getting defensive.  We continue to cultivate our relationship as it is important to us. LONGEVITY is what we seek so we do the things to ensure the years to come will be our reality.

Those Three Words

When I am compelled to say "I love you," I am offering and opening all of me to that person.  My past, my present and my future I am willing to share with them.  I do not take those words lightly nor do I use them loosely.  When I allow those words to part from my soul, I am accepting the responsibilty to communicate openly, understand without judgement and completely without condition love.

What does "I love you" really mean to you?

My money + Your money = Our money

Should a couple consider combining their money? What if they live together? Should they live as roommates splitting expenses 50/50?

Money seems to be an issue and sensitive subject in relationships.  Shouldn't these type of conversations take place openly and honestly revealing the pros and cons of shared accounts?

Sex appeal vs. Sexy

When determining if a person has sex appeal or being sexy, what are the key factors?  What would you rather a person have, sex appeal or to be sexy?